Many women who read these tips are going to not like what you need to do to stay safe but before you say it I will. It isn’t fair that women can’t go to a party and not have to worry about becoming a victim it also isn’t fair there are attacks at all. But there are attacks everyday and this for now at least, is the world we live in.

I’ll give you a perfect example without identifying where this attack took place or who exactly was involved. This attack took place on a college campus where to young women went to a party at a frat house together.

During the night both girls wound up in the bathroom doing beer bongs with a guy. When he started making out with the one girl the friend left the bathroom. He then took the girl into the stall and raped her.

I didn’t give names or info so I could pick this night apart.

First let’s discuss what she and her friend did correct:

• They went to the party together.

Now let’s discuss what they did wrong and why it was wrong:

• They went into the bathroom, out of public eye, with a strange guy and started doing beer bongs. This was wrong for many reasons other than just going out of public sight with some guy you just met even with a friend. The other bad thing here is the beer bongs. They were designed for one thing and one thing only…getting trashed. Bad idea for a woman at a party with drunken, horny guys.
• The other real bad thing here was that her friend left her alone with this guy. What is the purpose of taking a friend with you if she just leaves you? You need to be sure you make a vow with a friend you can trust with your life. The vow should be that you two come together and leave together…..period!
• If you meet a guy, get his digits and then see him later. A party is NOT a good place to be boyfriend for the night hunting in my opinion. Meet guys all you want, flirt, talk, have fun but stay together.

I’ll tell you a secret I don’t think women know or believe. Guys know you bring a friend to keep you from doing something stupid and any good date raper will have planned for this by having a friend to try and divide and conquer you two or at least one of you.
Sick right? Well it is also true. I believe it is the testosterone or maybe men are just pigs, who knows?

Ok let’s recap and expand a little on some safety tips:

• Never drink from any cup handed to you, get your own drink and if there is some reason the guy doesn’t want you to get it yourself even after you insist then it might be time to go.
• Remember this is important, don’t drink or taste anybody else’s drink.
• Never set your drink down unattended or eat food at frat parties (too easy to slip something in it)
• Dispose of your drink if you think it tastes odd (if you just leave it, someone else may drink
  it). Drugs used to spike drinks can be colorless and tasteless so you might not realize that anything has been added.
• Always bring at least one friend with a consented vow that no matter what you two stay together at all times. Don’t let anyone separate you two for any reason.
• Be aware of the behavior of your friends. Is their behavior out of character? Do they seem too “out of it” for what they’ve had?
• Avoid excessive drinking, beer bongs are a total no no. It is much too much alcohol at one time and it is too risky.
• Watch out for your friends. Are they binge drinking or taking drugs? Are they making safe decisions? Are they OK?
• Avoid drugs of any kind at parties (you never what you are really taking).
• If your friend needs to sober up or straighten out, check to see that they are OK. Are they alone? Who is with them? Are they safe?
• Encourage people who are drunk to drink water or eat something. Keep an
  eye on them, if you can.

Look it is common sense, if you want to stay then do it! You have all heard
the horror stories and know what type of behavior has the highest odds of
getting you into trouble and if you avoid this behavior you can go to a party
and have fun without getting attacked.

I also highly recommend you take a self defense course that gives you a
lengthy hands on approach to self defense. Having these skills could truly make
the difference between being a victim or not.

Stay safe out there!

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